Activating Oxytocin : The Master Hormone for Bliss and Bonding
Known as the “bonding hormone”, oxytocin plays an important role in the neuroanatomy of wellbeing and intimacy. It is associated with various behaviors, including social recognition, pair bonding, orgasm, anxiety, and parental behaviors.
The endocrine system produces and regulates our body’s hormonal activity. The gland known as the hypothalamus creates oxytocin, and it is stored in the pituitary gland, which then releases it to the rest of the body.
Like all systems, this works in complex feedback loop; One hormonal function in one gland then triggers the function of other glands in the system. So for example, when we activate the hypothalamus it then activates the pituitary gland, which then sends signals to other glands within the body – the adrenals, the thyroid, and the gonads – which in turn, are also connected via feedback loops.
In this interaction, the hypothalamus and the pituitary are the “master” glands; the holders of the crown frequency. The crown releases oxytocin, which ‘bonds’ all the rest of the systems in the body into one cohesive song. The natural state of the glands is interactive harmony – the unity consciousness of the crown frequency – and the individual harmonies of the body come together to help create the song of your life; how you are feeling, how your immune and digestive systems are working, what your sexual drives are saying in any given moment in time… This bond is the bond of love.
The Feedback Loop
If we know how to actively cultivate this sense of wellness and love and being that is hardwired within our bodies, we’re inevitably thrive. When we experience love – our own unique Bliss instinct – we gravitate more towards the things that make us feel more love, make us feel more beautiful, more healthy, more satisfied, more abundant. We make choices that are from a place of security and happiness, and safety, rather than from a place of mistrust, and fear, and insecurity about what’s going to happen – am I going to have enough money, is my partner is going to stick around, are my children going to be fine etc. We make a lot of decisions from fear when we don’t know how to actively that secrete the sensation of love.
Like our DNA, our consciousness play an active role in determining when and how our glandular system works. When we learn to activate the glands, the hormones, the sensations, we can activate the frequency of love in our being.
Whether we know it or not, we’re constantly in the process of a feedback loop. When we begin to understand and interact with our body with this awareness, we can go from chasing love to creating. When we understand the neurochemistry of love, we can learn to resonate with the crown frequency and activate that “master hormone” within our own bodies. The feedback loop it creates goes beyond the endocrine system, positively impacting the brain and the immune, circulatory, nervous and digestive systems. The whole LumenOctave! So, by developing an intimacy with our body glandular functions, we can give ourselves access to the sensation of love and trigger an energetic feedback loop that creates more love, and supports our physical health.
As part of this feedback loop, other glands also receive the oxytocin hormone, and help to regulate levels in the body by communicating to the hypothalamus that it has had “enough”. What that means is that, through the innate intelligence of our body’s natural frequencies, we feel satiated and satisfied. We experience this love sustainably. We know when we have had enough. We are not trying to satisfy our cravings or addictions to foods, or sex, or emotional fulfilment; neediness of our emotions seem to disappear when we are able to find the feeling of love deep within ourselves. Physically and energetically. It ultimately comes back to the sensation of love.
Ancient Knowledge, Modern Suppression
So many problems in our lives come from not feeling the love that we desire – the love that we desire from our parents, from our peers, from our friends. We want to be in social interactions where we are really bonding, feeling the sense of compassion and support all around. And when we do, when we tune into that unity vibration, we really thrive, we don’t feel like we have as many cravings, we don’t feel lonely, and we don’t resort to addictions to fill that need for love.
Unfortunately, our ability to tune into the frequencies in our bodies has become largely dormant in today’s world. Toxins, chemicals, frequencies and other environmental pollutants have affected the function of our glands and we have lost access to their purest functions, which are intrinsically linked with our experience of emotions and feelings. Social programming teaches us that it is “adult” behavior to suppress our emotional state, and we end up replacing the “natural and native” functions of our glands with the “programmed version”. We expect our endocrine system to behave counter-intuitively, and as a result, our glands act up over time.
For example those who grow up in homes or cultures where suppressing one’s truth is rewarded (tall-poppy syndrome, for example) and those who have silently suffered from manipulation and trauma, often experience issues of the thyroid gland, which is linked to communication. The thyroid is also linked to metabolism, so unexpressed truth can often manifest in the body as as weight gain.
A lot of our power has been taken away from us. Although the ancients held this knowledge, today, we do not know how to use the body. We do not teach our children that we can influence our digestive process, our genetic expression, our immune system, with our intention. And, with the reductionist model still prevailing in modern medicine, we are not taught to know our bodies as a blissful, interactive whole.
Activating the Crown Frequency
The first step to cleansing the body’s frequencies is to learn how to activate the glands. It’s not only important to activate the pituitary gland and the hypothalamus, it’s important to activate all the glands within the body so that they are all functioning in perfect harmony, and that feedback loop is in its best possible shape.
Initially, when you turn the focus of the lens into the physical body, you will develop a simple awareness of its sensations. As you go deeper into that experience, your relationship with the sensations becomes more sophisticated, and in turn, the mind becomes more intelligent at interpreting those sensations.
Within the body system is a full octave of glands and organs that resonate on a certain frequency. When the white light of consciousness enters the body, it refracts and travels through seven different organs and glands with seven different frequencies. Each frequency regulates the characteristics and color of light emitted. For example, when the consciousness light enters the pineal gland, the energy emitted is violet due to the specific vibration of the gland.
Our ‘bliss frequency’ – what we call The LumenOctave – is the light of consciousness experienced through the full octave of frequencies in the body: the seven frequencies, plus the origin of the octave (the high ‘C’). When your instrument is tuned to these frequency, amazing things happen. This is the state where we are most blissful, most beautiful, most thriving and most divine.
The main player among the wellbeing hormones is dopamine, also known as the reward hormone. Then there is prolactin, the hormone of satiation, and
oxytocin, the love and bliss hormone. All these hormones interact powerfully affecting our moods and desire for intimacy and bonding. And although we might believe that dynamics within the relationship has a conscious element to it, there is also a deep physical hormonal element that contributes to our experience.
Within our brain there is a code that tells us what we need to do to be happy, healthy, wealthy, glowing and living within our life’s purpose. When we do those things, and we experience things such as social interaction, pair bonding and orgasm, our endocrine system responds by releasing oxytocin.
When we first fall in love we become bonded by rising levels of oxytocin, which is the love and cuddle hormone, and we also feel a peak in our dopamine levels. When we start having sex with that person, we experience a big release of dopamine, which comes like a huge wave in the brain during the orgasm. It feels amazing! However this is then followed by a significant drop in dopamine levels immediately after orgasm, which brings hangover-like effects. Generally speaking, the timing of this hangover varies by gender; the reaction tends to be immediate in males and slightly delayed in females.
Here, I’ll discuss an example of a male/female sexual relationship, since the difference in male and female hormonal reactions illustrates our biological reactions most distinctly.
Our levels of dopamine, the reward hormone, tend to rise in response to the excitement that of things that are new and novel. Think about the time, for example, when you bought your car – how excited you were. And now, when you look at it every time, most likely you don’t feel anything towards it.
When we get into a relationship, it comes with a sense of novelty and newness created by this reward-like system. You were looking for a partner, and boom — there’s someone you’re connecting with, having an interaction or a sexual encounter. And because your needs are being met, you’re experiencing a sense of a reward, a biological prize of sorts. Over time, there’s less of that sense of novelty as the peaks of dopamine, testosterone, and prolactin levels subside. We may feel symptoms of hormonal withdrawal, almost like addiction, which can make us feel helpless and dejected.
So what’s the antidote?
These are all natural hormonal processes in our bodies. If we understand what’s happening on a biological level, we can teach ourselves to get into the sustainable flow of the love-giving, intimacy-enhancing hormone oxytocin, which doesn’t give us the rollercoaster side-effects of dopamine when that sense of bliss and euphoria subsides.
Firstly, the “oxytocin way” of having sex takes away the need. The goal of sexual interaction shifts from having an orgasm to being in a euphoric love connection, and re-orients us to a place where we’re feeling satiated by intimacy, even though were not having an orgasm. Instead of getting to a place where we are able to just have that sort of deep release of sensation, the goal of the oxytocin sex is to build and engage in a relationship.
In essence, we are learning to communicate with our body’s energy centers – and those of our sexual partner – in a very intimate way, and to do that we need to relearn the way of the “natural” flow of our body and our hormones.
The endocrine system produces and regulates our body’s hormonal activity. The gland known as the hypothalamus creates oxytocin, and it is stored in the pituitary gland, which then releases it to the rest of the body. Like all systems, this works in complex feedback loop; one hormonal function in one gland then triggers the function of other glands in the system. That’s why I strongly recommend developing a full spectrum relationship –
a relationship that engages all the elements in the octave of the body’s endocrine system:
- When you feel you have a higher purpose with a partner, it engages the crown center.
- Having a mental connection, similar mental patterns, being intuitively connected with one another person is a very important purpose of the pineal gland center.
- If you have good physical energy, and a similar range of physical energy, it engages the medulla oblongata, the nervous system center. If one person is extremely active and the other person is not, it can create a disconnection.
- The thyroid connection involves being able to really talk about your innermost feelings and desires, your emotions and your goals in life, and be able to deeply connect and share on a verbal communication level.
- The simple feeling of bonding and love, having a sense of independence while still having a connection, a relationship where you can really be yourself and be loved for it, relates to the thymus gland connection.
- The solar plexus connection is to be able to work together well in the physical dimension, to be able to create things, to be able to support each other and your joint life, to be able to be more powerful in the world together, in your own individual missions and hopefully in your joint purpose of being together.
- The womb and the prostate region has to do with being able to have a wonderful intimate social life, to have loving friends, have your needs met to be in a great community, to be a good fit, be good together as it comes to relating to your greater family.
- And then, finally, we come to the rectum, the root chakra, which is the sex center of the body’s energy octave and the center most activated by casual sex.
In my experience, the oxytocin connection is reached if we made sure that we have spiraled our energy together and come to a place where we are meeting someone on at least five of those areas – the rest you could work on. That’s a natural part of relationships. But connecting on any less than five areas out of eight can make the relationship quite difficult, not to mention a full spectrum connection difficult to achieve.
If you are meeting someone with the intention of having a full spectrum connection, oxytocin is triggered, naturally and simply. If you’re meeting someone for the purposes of just having sex, you’re skipping all the connections associated with the body’s energy centers and going straight to the sexual center. Oxytocin, which helps to create spiritual bonding on a biological level, also holds the code of your crown energy, which is how you are a divine being and how you are walking the planet and completing your spiritual mission on this planet. All that information is held in your crown center, which is where the oxytocin gets released.
When we experience the release of oxytocin, we feel like our emotional and spiritual needs are taken care of. We feel a strong bond with someone that we can trust. Trust is a huge factor in oxytocin release because, when we feel safe, we feel like we’re in the “right place” and we start functioning from a place of trust and safety, and relax into the relationship. The “soul’s code” triggers the master hormone – oxytocin – which in turn triggers all the rest of the glands in the body, creating a hormonal feedback loop (provided they are healthy enough to receive the messages and are in turn able to contribute to that feedback loop.) But when we’re randomly meeting someone and having sex, we’re not really able to feel that sort of connection, and we’re not able to feel the safety associated with the oxytocin loop.
In my opinion, yes, it is better to avoid just having sex, but rather to save it as an energy-center interaction with someone after we’ve connected through the other major parts of the body spectrum. And then, once were connecting in this deeper way, we can look into the person’s eyes and feel how deeply we’re connected with them on a soul level, how safe we are with them — and feel the natural flow of oxytocin, without creating a fake bubble of oxytocin (which creates a false sense of connection) or just chasing the dopamine rush of disconnected sex.
To be clear, I am not moralistic about it, just realistic. A lot of people think that abstaining from sex until we are in a loving (full spectrum) relationship is an issue of morals, or adherence to religious doctrines. But this principle is grounded in biology, and a desire not to be fooled by it. Before you release oxytocin, listen to your bliss instinct, to your guiding system, otherwise you are playing with hormonal fire. You start feeling bonded with someone that is not right for you on levels other that sex, and you end up in a situation (like so many of us have before) where it is hard for you to let them go even though you know deep down that you don’t share that full spectrum connection with that person.
SCRIPT FROM INDRA
Indra is the founder of the Full Spectrum Bliss®, a teaching organization dedicated to raising consciousness by incorporating scientific, metaphysical and ancient teachings on “bliss” to enhance sex, love, beauty, health and longevity.
With a background in Psychology and a Master’s degree in Communication, USDA and CDC funded graduate research in Ag and Applied Sciences, and corporate experience in both healthcare and not-for-profit organizations, Indra, with a team of like-minded people, has devoted her life to teaching, research and development of the ultimate tools for human health, happiness and evolution which can be achieved by following the “physical instinct of bliss”.
“Follow your bliss instinct.”